Mother and Daughter

People like to say “like the father, like the son.” I want to add “like the mother, like daughter.”
I have been observing an interesting phenomena, which is if a family has only one daughter, that daughter will turn out to be just like her mother, for better for worse. I call it “princess syndrome” However, if the mother is the only daughter from her family, the chance is she will be quite dominant mother and her daughter will be very stubborn.
Well, I have seen this happened in my husband’s family and, and oh yes, I am speaking from my own experience too.
My own mother was the only daughter until her younger sister born ten years later; she grew up with three big brothers. She is very dominant mother. I am the only daughter with two younger brothers, I am very stubborn, and my parents call me “donkey head with soft ears”. I had some rough pitches with my mother, especially when I entered my teen’s years, when I was no longer under her “dominant style” control. She gave in to my stubbornness mostly but I was long for leaving my home to have my own world sooner. The relationship between my mother and I also suffered.
After I got marriage, my children were born; my mom visited me from time to time. She could not help but putting her dominant style especially in dealing with children, that really put me off. Till today, whenever she visits me, we are still prone to run into some unpleasant slashes. How I wish both of us could change.
Well, now is my daughter’s, the only girl in family with three boys. I am always amazed to see how this “genetic default” is magnifying in her life. I am so aware of her tendency of stubborn and dominant yet I can’t help noticing that I am repeating what my mother did to me and I seem have little power to change myself, nor to her.
I only pray that God will break this family default of bondage, so our character and personality could develop into its best potential, especially for our children’s sake.